In the past year (2023), I journeyed from what I thought was a ‘stable’ 5-year relationship to a heartbreaking end. The girl I was dating had secretly agreed to marry someone else and was probably cheating on me.
My heart was shattered as betrayal and untold rage left me emotionally disconnected from my friends and family.
Later on, I summoned the courage to confide in Dr Onu, my Mentor, who at that time was the only one I could speak to. I was initially hesitant but his first response validated my instincts.
He said, ‘You can’t have me as your Mentor and go into relationship issues more so as a relationship and life coach.’ I can still vividly remember the night when I poured out my heart to him!
From our conversations and his coaching, I realized that I had my shortcomings too which I never considered or acknowledged. He taught me how to communicate effectively, that I cannot always be right and to learn to have clarity of purpose at every stage. These are the things I know I ignored in my past relationship.
I’m now happily in love with someone who’s special in all ways I would have wanted as we share the same values and non-negotiables. As they say, ‘life always gives us a second chance’. We have decided to make things work as we are clear about our desires.
Are there going to be challenges? Absolutely! But am I going to give my best? Yes!!
Do we have the will to get it right and keep it moving forward? This we intend to do by communicating all of our fears in all honesty.
I’m grateful to Dr Onu for his coaching and the insights from his newsletter and all the amazing articles on www.DavidOnu.com.
May your ink never run dry and may your fountain of knowledge keep overflowing. I wholeheartedly recommend you to those in need of a coach.