I’ve been reflecting on building trust lately—how it’s the foundation of any meaningful relationship, whether in the workplace, at home, or within our communities.
But building trust isn’t always easy. It requires becoming more self-aware and learning to be vulnerable.
Let’s explore this together.
🚀 3 Ideas From Me
♻️ I. Building Trust: It Starts with Showing Up Authentically
Trust doesn’t happen overnight. It’s built over time through small, consistent actions. I’ve learned that people don’t just want promises—they want to see that you’re genuinely invested in their well-being. It’s about showing up, being reliable, and being authentic.
I used to be very conscious about revealing too much of myself. As an introvert who has always been wary of criticism, I kept my professional and personal lives separate. However, as time passed, I realized that hiding parts of who I am prevented deeper connections.
I started by being more transparent about my challenges and imperfections. It wasn’t easy, but I found that others responded with openness and trust whenever I let my guard down more.
Here are a few things I’ve learned along the way:
- Be Congruent: Align your actions with your words. People trust reliable people, not just in significant commitments but also in small, everyday interactions.
- Communicate Honestly: Admitting when you don’t have all the answers is okay. Sharing your thoughts and intentions can go a long way toward building trust.
- Admit Your Mistakes: This was tough for me, but I’ve found that owning up to mistakes and showing what I’ve learned strengthens relationships rather than weakens them.
♻️ II. Self-Awareness: Understanding Myself to Lead Better
For a long time, I thought being a leader meant having all the answers and always appearing strong. But I’ve come to see that authentic leadership starts with knowing yourself—your strengths, your blind spots, and your triggers.
I wasn’t always comfortable with self-reflection. I remember feeling uneasy when asking myself hard questions like, “Why did I react that way?” or “What’s driving my decisions?”
It’s still a work in progress, but becoming more self-aware has changed how I interact with others and lead.
Here’s what’s helped me along the way:
- Daily Reflection: I spend a few minutes each day thinking about what went well and what didn’t. This helps me see patterns in my behavior and adjust where needed.
- Seeking Feedback: This used to make me cringe, but I’ve learned to view feedback as a gift. It’s not always easy to hear, but it’s essential for growth.
- Staying Present: I’ve found that mindfulness practices like deep breathing help me stay grounded, especially when things get overwhelming.
♻️ III. Vulnerability: Embracing the Courage to Be Real
I used to think that being vulnerable meant being weak. I was afraid that if I let people see my struggles or uncertainties, they would lose respect for me. But with time, I’ve understood that vulnerability is a strength—it makes us human and relatable.
I remember a turning point when I shared a personal story with my team members. I was nervous, wondering if they would see me as less capable.
But their response was the opposite—they appreciated the honesty and felt more connected. That experience taught me that being vulnerable doesn’t diminish your leadership; it enhances it.
Here’s why vulnerability matters:
- Deepens Connections: Being open about your experiences encourages others to be open, creating a deeper bond.
- Builds Trust: People trust those willing to be genuine and authentic, even when it is difficult.
- Fosters Growth: Embracing vulnerability means stepping out of your comfort zone, where real growth happens.
Being vulnerable still doesn’t come naturally to me, but I’m learning on the job. And each time I do, I see its positive impact on my relationships and leadership.
🚀 2 Quotes to Inspire You
“To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.” — Criss Jami.
“Self-awareness doesn’t stop you from making mistakes, it allows you to learn from them.” — Unknown.
🚀 1 Question for You
How may self-awareness and vulnerability enable you to build trust in your relationships?
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Best regards,
David Onu
Your Results, Relationship & Life Coach
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